It’s About The Forgiver

Ahh, forgiveness. I’ve talked a lot about it lately. It seems to be my central theme in life. Not sure if that’s a good or bad thing somedays.

I have always struggled with forgiveness. I have pretended to forgive, but really I just pushed it, whatever ‘it’ may be, under the rug for a little bit. I never forgave anyone. Never. In almost 31 years, I never forgave one person.

It wasn’t until last year when I stood face to face with one of the most important decisions of my life, to leave or to forgive, that it finally caught up with me. There would be no more hiding, no more pretending, and no more sweeping.

I would have to face forgiveness once and for all. I had always known this day would come, kind of, but I hadn’t ever considered that I would have to forgive, for the first time, something I had considered my unforgivable.

But I did it. Of course, I’m still doing it. Forgiveness is an on going, choice, every single morning you wake up, that you have to make. I’ve been making it every day since the day it started. Some days were harder than others. There were even days when I wanted to take back my forgiveness. But I did it.

And the good news is that it has gotten easier. Each day that passes it gets easier. (Praise the Lord because there were some dark, dark days.)

But I only want to share this with you because I want to make sure that you understand what it means if I can forgive someone. It means that if I, little ol’ me, can forgive, especially if I can forgive my unforgivable, and let me make sure you know what I mean by unforgivable. I was the one sitting around as my girlfriends shared their heartbreaking stories about being cheated on, pounding my fist on the table saying ‘Not me! Let me find out he’s cheating on me. It would be sooooo over. He wouldn’t even know what to do!’ I would go on and on, dead set in my ways, but when the time came I chose forgiveness.

So if I can forgive, He certainly can forgive. I say this confidently because I know that I wouldn’t have forgiven if it hadn’t had been for Him and His presence.

Forgiveness is so important to our Father that He sent His only son to die for us so that we could be forgiven for all that we have done.

Not some. Not just a little, but all. That’s a pretty big deal, ya know?

Before Justin had made the choice to cheat, he was forgiven. And it hurt Jesus just as much as it hurt me. And that’s how it is for everything. Before we cheat or lie or whatever we do we are forgiven, so if He can forgive us, why wouldn’t we be able to forgive each other?

Well, I can answer for myself. I had a hard time forgiving because it hurt my pride. But I had it all wrong. I thought forgiveness made you look weak, dumb, stupid. I hated it. It meant giving in. It meant defeat. I was never a big fan of losing. But it’s not true. None of it. Forgiveness was one of the most demanding things I have ever done. When I did it, I didn’t feel weak. I was the strongest I had ever been, probably because He was with me, He gave me the strength.

And my pride? I didn’t even think about. There was something very humbling about forgiving. I wasn’t thinking ‘Way to go, Lauren! Good for you! You’re awesome!’ No, it was more like ‘Thank you, Lord for always forgiving me. I don’t deserve it, but thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.’

You see, I had made forgiveness out to be about the other person completely, but it’s not. It’s not about the forgiven, it’s about the forgiver.

You need Him to truly forgive. And when you get that close and that intimate with Him, it changes you. Completely. Entirely. (More on that another day.)

Because when you can forgive it reminds you that you’ve been forgiven. And I’ve been there, I’ve been in a place where I felt like no one, not even God could forgive me for what I’ve done. But that’s just not true. You’re already forgiven, so why not extend that same grace?

It’s not going to be easy. And if I can be completely honest with you, it’s probably going to hurt a lot in the beginning. People aren’t going to understand. The world will make you think it was the weakest choice, but once you do it. Once you realize how much strength it actually takes to forgive, you’ll know the world was wrong. But remember to just lean on Him for it. You can bet that if this is that important to Him, He’s going to do whatever it takes to help you do it. Not just once, but every single time. (I can say that from experience.)

Think you don’t need to forgive anyone? Ask Him. I’m chuckling to myself as I write this because I remember thinking that I didn’t need to forgive anyone and I asked Him and He just gives me name after name, every single day. It’s amazing how much hurt, anger, and resentment you can hold on to. Just ask. I bet you’ll be pretty surprised.

Goodbye Winter Skin!

It’s Winter. It’s cold. Even here in Houston. I don’t know about you, but with the cold weather and the hot showers, my skin is a nightmare in the winter time, but not anymore. Here’s my favorite products perfect for battling the winter elements!
Winter Skin
Nourishing Cleansing Balm, $75
Lip Conditioner Calendula Balm, $18
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Glow Sugar Scrub, $38
Wash Everyday Body Wash, $22
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Lustro Body Oil, $68
Winter Skin4
Routine Clean Cream Cleanser, $24
Lustro Oil 1, $64
Countertime Vibrant Eye Perfector, $55

Something For Everyone!

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Kidscounter
Rosewater
Glow Sugar Scrub
Total: $112
datenight
My must-have’s for date night!
Lip Shine
Lip Sheer
Lip Balm
Rosewater
Total: $102
Take off the years
Looking to take off some years?
Countertime Soothing Face Wash
Uplifting Day Cream
Total: $110
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With the Free Hydrate Lotion these are three of my must-have’s for Dry, Winter Skin!
Glow Sugar Scrub
Lustro Body Oil
Total: $106
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For those experienced momma’s who could use a little pick-me-up!
Kidscounter
Anytime Eye Cream
Rosewater
Total: $106
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Ready to make the switch, but not sure where to start?
Gentle Exfoliator Polishing Cream
Everyday AM Hydrating Cream
Anytime Eye Cream
Total: $102
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Had a long day? Still a few hours to go? Try these!
Anytime Eye cream
Rosewater
Glow Sugar Scrub
Total: $102
Body Purge
Looking to clean out the whole shower for the whole family? You’ll want to start here!
Wash Everyday Body Wash
Clean Everyday Shampoo
Rinse Everyday Conditioner
Shave Shaving Cream
Lip Balm
Total: $100
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Lustro Face Oil
Countertime Enlightening Treatment Pads
Total: $104
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FREE Hydrate Everyday Body Lotiom

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Healthy Living Update

Well, that was fun. I tried, not hard enough though. I didn’t want it enough. I said I did, but when I actually thought about it, I had been saying that I wanted to lose weight for years, so why hadn’t I lost any weight? Well, I didn’t want it enough. That’s why.

Being healthy didn’t motivate me. I wasn’t happy with how I looked, but I wasn’t unhappy enough.

I won’t get into many details, but I will tell you it involved cake and lots of cookies.

Until it hit me. I had reached my enough. I looked at my children and realized they were my motivation. It wasn’t anything big. No bright lights, no music, but I was definitely having a moment.

I don’t know if this is any different than before, it feels like it is. I hope it is. I’m back at it. Healthy choices, small steps, you name it and so far, so good.

I’ve cut back on calories, cut wheat out completely (Thank you, Wheat Belly), and have said goodbye to diet soda. I’m miserable without sweets and bread, but I’m proud of myself for choosing better and that finally outweighs everything I’m missing out on. (I’m talking to you, cake.)

It’s only been a week, but I feel better. I’m not as tired. I actually have energy. I’ve been trying to work out at home. It isn’t easy, but I’m done making excuses. 2015 has been 20 days of learning how to work with what I have.

No more excuses, you know? There’s never going to be enough time. There’s never going to be the right time. All I can do is use the time I have.

So, let’s try this again.

Just gotta remember that it’s not about perfection, it’s about progress.

One Day

shower
Start my days around 5:45/6ish with a shower.
Countertime Soothing Face Wash, $40
Clean Everyday Shampoo, $20
Wash Everyday Body Wash, $22
Rinse Everyday Conditioner, $24
after shower
Then I hog the bathroom for a few more minutes while I get ‘ready’.
Everyday AM Hydrating Cream, $40
Lustro Oil 1, $64
Radiance Firming Complex, $60
Salt Water Spray
Calendula Lip Balm, $18
Lustro Body Oil, Rosemary & Citrus, $68
Anytime Eye Cream, $32
Hydrate Everyday Body Lotion, $22
morningcoffee
Then while the kids are still sleeping I have my coffee. I used to drink it with cream and sugar, but I’ve been drinking it black for about 8 months now. It’s so much better!
desk
Then I do my devotional for the day. Currently I’m doing Bible in One Year. I love, love, love the quiet time in the morning. I wouldn’t survive without it. I also have a cup of hot water with lemon. (That’s what’s in the mug.)
workout
I usually use my last 30 minutes of quiet time in the morning to do a little working out.
fixbreakfast
I’ve really been trying to focus on making us breakfast rather then handing them a bowl of cereal every morning. The request today was eggs.
breakfastwithkids
Love eating together. So grateful for God and His blessings. (dining room table)
playingtogether
Love it when they play together, although Adelaide’s controller doesn’t have any batteries.
prayertime
Because when they do, it means I get to have some prayer time. (And another cup of coffee)
adelaidetablet
Then we just kind of hang out for a little bit before Adelaide’s nap time.
clean house
I do most of my work when Adelaide takes her nap. Like clean the house and catch up on laundry.
worktime
Catch up on emails, calls, check-in with my clients, and doing whatever I can do to grow this business every single day. I love being able to bring home a paycheck without having to sacrifice anything else.
picture editing
I’m always editing pictures for the blog. It’s one of my most favorite things to do. Makes me want a big fancy camera, but for now my iPhone 6+ will have to do. (And it does a pretty good job!)
TV and Laundry
Finally got cable in our bedroom so now I can fold laundry and catch up on some news. I don’t watch much TV at all, but it’s nice to know what’s going on in the world.
reading
And since I love to read, I always make sure to get a chapter or two in while she sleeps.
afternoonpickmeup
After nap time I’m in desperate need of a cup of hot green tea and a few of my favorite afternoon pick-me-up’s.
Hydrate Everyday Body Lotion, $22
Rosewater Uplifting Spray, $32
Anytime Eye Cream, $32
Lip Conditioner Calendula Balm, $18
cook dinner
I’m not always in the mood to cook dinner and sometimes I luck out and Justin will offer to cook, but tonight I wasn’t so lucky. Oh well, I’m grateful to be able to cook for my family.
bedtime
Then it’s time for bed. I don’t think he’s as happy about it as I am. :) (Also, note-to-self: I really need to get a curtain in their room.)
goodnight
I end the evening with my skin feeling great, a little more quiet time, and maybe another chapter in my book.
Routine Clean Cream Cleanser, $24
Lustro Face Oil 1, $64
Vibrant Eye Perfector, $55
Nourishing Cleansing Balm, $75
self portrait
And that’s a wrap.

What does your day look like?

Photo Credit: Lauren Falber